Narcissist dad vs self-centred boyfriend

My boyfriend is blaming my poor mental health for the reason he hasn't lost any weight yet and he "has to look after me"
He always blames me and says I am not doing enough to keep my narcissist dad at bay, even know I am doing everything I can. I am starting to think I don't need either of them but I can't save up enough to live on my own. I am always expected to say what they want to hear and it's always clashing with either one of them when I am "emotional" Both men are just draining af.

"Come to me for help , rely on me " - my boyfriend says
I rely on him and express my truth feelings and struggles
and all he does is get more frustrated himself and throws me against the wall for " not listening to him"
He has said sorry for it but it's the second time and he forces me to look at him when I am crying because "it's the only way I listen" I am stubborn yes but I am tired of being yelled at by a man when I am emotionally struggling and then get yell at again when I am trying explain what is wrong and then they wonder why I cut them off or interrupt them to prevent them misunderstanding me and then shouting at me again.

I just can't win!

"I can't just walk away from you when you need help" - boyfriend says but if he doesn't walk away he throws me against a wall, he gets angry and yells , so how can he not take a step away for a moment and realise he is the one getting angry, why do I have to tell him that, tell him to step away and I be fine? I don't raise my voice at him and he tells me I am the one being a dickhead, when all I did was explain what was wrong? I don't understand why telling him what is bothering me is somehow meaning I am the one harming him or the one in the wrong or the one who is shouting ? I went out my way not to shouting out my problems to prevent him thinking I was angry at him . In fact I was just upset and my tears and crying is definitely not shouting or being in the wrong.

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anonymous Relationships June 16, 2025 at 7:15 pm 0 0