Tired of being pressured

I know this is gonna piss people off but the truth is that I don’t want to date someone who has ADHD / ADD. Some people can handle it, but it’s just not for me. I can’t. I know there’s a whole spectrum and there are people who are high functioning. I get it. That’s fine.

I don’t have a problem with people who have it. I’m not asking for these people to go extinct or anything crazy. I don’t even mind if my coworkers or whoever have it. My only issue is that if I mention that I’m not interested in dating someone who’s neurodivergent, all of sudden I’m being insulted, someone tried to physically attacked me once a few years ago, and now there’s this person who is open about having ADHD and this person wants to date me. Everyone keeps telling me to do it, but when I say I don’t want to, they ask why. Then I answer that I don’t want to date someone whos neurodivergent, in this case someone with ADHD.

And now people are telling me that I’m a bigot and others have pulled me aside to say that I’m gonna risk everything if I don’t just say yes. They even tell me just go on a few dates and call it off if I’m sure I’m not interested, but I should keep my options open “just in case”.

I feel like this is unfair. I’m not calling for the death of anyone, I’m not saying I think all people with ADHD are bad or anything. It’s just my personal choice to not date someone who is neurodivergent. I think there’s plenty of people who wouldn’t mind dating someone who is and that’s great. But I don’t understand why my dating life and choices are so wrong. I don’t bully anyone with ADHD. I treat them normally just as I treat anyone. They’re not bad people, I just don’t want to date them.

I feel like it’s an unfair situation. I don’t feel like it’s right to force anyone to date people that aren’t interested in dating. I legitimately don’t understand why this would make me a bad person. People should have a choice in who they date, right?

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anonymous Dating January 15, 2026 at 3:30 am 0 0