Wtf is going on…

Idk what our relation would be, but my brother married a woman who has a nephew who’s the same age as me. We just call each other cousins though. Anyway, this guy and I basically grew up with each other since his auntie and my brother had been dating for years before they finally got married.

We were like friends when we were kids, but now that we’re both adults in college it’s really weird. It’s like he switched up and I only noticed in last few years by the way he now treats me.

Whenever we would see each other I’d talk to him like normal and try to catch up with him about life. But I noticed anytime it was time for me to talk about my life, he would have the meanest responses. I once told him I don’t think I’m pretty, but I don’t think I’m ugly. I think I’m just really normal & plain looking and he was like, “weeeeeeeell I don’t know. I think you’re belong average. Kinda ugly to me” and I would actually ask him ‘why would you say that? That’s so mean’ and he would shrug it off.

And it would just get worse from there, too. Before I deleted my account, anytime I posted a photo of literally anything like a picture of a birthday cake or a typical photo you’d take with your parents at graduation, he would never say congratulations or anything. He always insults me and passes it off that he’s joking.

I’ve told him in a serious way that the way he speaks me genuinely hurts me and I’ve asked him to stop, but either he would just ignore it and continue to act the same way or he would act offended that I even asked him to stop in the first place and would act cold toward me the next time I’d see him.

We run into each other every now and then because we literally live a few blocks away from each other and we go to the same college. We used to be really cool with each other when we were younger, but now ever since we got to college it’s like he switched up on me and takes every opportunity he gets to insult me.

It’s so unwarranted because I’ve never insulted him ever at all, but here he is insulting the color of my skin (he calls me dark like it’s suppose to be an insult and in reality I’m lighter than he is anyway so wtf?), my body, the way I dress, the languages I can speak, etc and it’s just so hurtful that it’s gotten to a point that I just flat out avoid him and stopped speaking to him.

And when I brought it up to my sister in law (because she’s always been like a big sister to me so I’ve always felt comfortable coming to her about anything) she got really weird and awkward and I noticed ever since then she seems like she’s uncomfortable speaking to me. So now I refrain from talking to her unless I really have to because it’s awkward with her now, too.

For a while I was genuinely really confused by the entire situation and now I’m just angry. I don’t know what the fuck I did to get him yo always insult me, but I don’t deserve to be insulted every fucking time I run into him and I don’t know what the hell is going on, but anytime I bring this up to the family they all get really weird and awkward to a point that everyone looks visibly uncomfortable when I speak to them.

I don’t know wtf is going on, but whatever reasons everyone has for being so weird about this, I think it’s bullshit. The insults are unwarranted and it’s honestly too much.

If anyone has any ideas why anyone would do this, I’d love to hear it. Idk. It’s just so frustrating because I’ve never been mean to this guy. Ever. And then he switched up out of nowhere.

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anonymous Home December 12, 2025 at 11:41 am 0 0