Please help me.... this is a long story.

To start with, I am in a long time gay relationship. We've experienced lots of ups and down together and most of the time, I'm always the one who chooses to be the bigger person aka always trying to keep my strings longer.

So here's the rant. Yesterday, we both went to a nearby spa to get a massage. I would always complain about my back pain to him and since it's payday, I told him we deserve a good massage. We've been to this specific spa for how many times. However, there was this incident when my boyfriend told me he felt harassed by the massage therapist. I remember him getting angry and leaving a bad review on their page. He even messaged the admin about what happened and they immediately made actions about it. It was our go to spa so we both agreed to stop going there for some time. After a few months, we went again to that spa and fortunately nothing bad happened.

Then yesterday, I suddenly felt weird hearing my boyfriend talking with his therapist. I can even hear them laughing. It was somewhat clear to me what they were talking about--his therapist said "Do I look cute?" and other topics such as, "Can you read my mind?" (we're both working in the mental health field), and many other things.

On the other hand, my massage therapist was just quiet and doing his job as a normal therapist-- the reason why I gave him a big tip. I want to relax that's why I went to the spa. Given the nature of my job, I'm already exhausted doing my job and for a moment I want my mind and body to feel relaxed. So, I really appreciate my therapist for being quiet the whole time and even calling out the therapist of my boyfriend for being too loud.

Going back, after the session, (I was lying on the bed and just finished wearing my clothes) my boyfriend opened the curtain that separates us then told me while glaring, "Did he give you a hand**b?" I was very confused because I don't know why and how would he ask me with such disgusting question.

On our way home, he told me that his therapist made indecent proposal to him twice, which he said he refused. I said to him, "I heard some of your conversation and heard you laughing with him up until the session ended." He got very angry to me for saying that. He said, "What I am supposed to do? Walk out of the spa?" I said that it was not what I meant. Then I brought up the past incident. I said to him why he reacted differently now. Back then, he was furious about what happened and he did not try to talk again with that therapist. But now, he even talked with him about his work background and even laughing with the therapist's jokes. I got angry because he did not even recognize my feelings about what happened because I am so confused with his different reaction.

To be honest, our relationship is rock at this time. I also remember last week, he said out of nowhere and without context, "Break up with me again because I want to listen to Madison Beer's songs. When I called him out, he said, "I'm just joking, I just want to hear Madison Beer's songs because they're sad."

At this time, I really don't know what to do.... Please help me....

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Huxley Relationships December 12, 2025 at 9:06 am 0 0