Polyamory is bullshit

If you're polyamorous, you have been taken in by the instant gratification monster. You are most likely a selfish commitment-phobe. You likely want to have zero accountability to your partner or partners.

If you cannot even do ONE relationship properly, how can you expect to do SEVERAL.

I realize people are also hurt all the time in monogamous relationships, but in polyamorous ones it seems to get even more toxic. There is always the favored or main partner.


How must it feel to be the second choice or side piece? I guess if everyone is okay with where they are in the pecking order and doesn't have self esteem issues or crave one on one intimacy, then it's A-ok.

But I feel like with poly, no one gets enough intimacy. No one has the undivided attention that provides the basis for what a romantic relationship is meant to be.

Your lover is meant to be a safe haven, something sacred and real in an otherwise profane and uncaring world. They are the one who understands you best, supports you makes love to you.

What if you've had a really bad day and you're in a poly relationship and your partner is off the radar somewhere with a side piece? You're not going to feel happy or secure.

Then I suppose you have to call a friend or someone else in your support network. But I would instinctively want to be with my partner. My special person.

I don't want my special person sleeping with someone else. It lessens our sacred bond. It diminishes our love. It takes away from me something that I should have had and gives it to another.

How can I put my faith into a person whom I do not satisfy completely? Maybe no one can do that. But I suppose then that the problem is with the other person and not myself.

Love is sacred. I don't want to cheapen it or diminish it by adding more players to the game. Nor do I feel I should have to compete for the attention of my own lover.

It shocks and dismays me that there are people who can do this... You folks are part of the problem. Now gen Z thinks it's fine to sleep around as casually as one would shake hands. It's nasty.

How can I feel like I have a true connection with someone if it is not enough to satisfy the most important person in my life besides myself completely?

I suppose some may call me idealistic or old fashioned. But I demand to be loved exclusively.

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anonymous Dating March 29, 2024 at 7:16 am 0 0