Dating isn’t that bad when you figure it out.

I see so many people talking negatively about dating but I feel like once you meet someone on the same wavelength as you dating is the most amazing thing. Like for me the first guy I dated was overly attached and creepily obsessed, so that made dating uncomfortable. Next guy had zero confidence and (to my unknowing) used his confidence coverup to cheat on and date a crap ton of girls (I got cheated on twice. It sucked and I swore I’d never date again). Then there was one that lasted about 8 months because I was friends with his sister and his mom and we were all friends before and all of a sudden once he had a crush on me they were all forcing that relationship and the in person “Will you be my girlfriend” was really u comfortable, like to the point for the entire 8 months I never wanted to kiss or anything. the entire relationship I was guilt tripped and made to feel bad and worry if I broke up with him my friends and his family would hate me. All not fun experiences up until now. I met a super sweet guy I truly like and who truly likes me. Neither of us felt forced and our ability to get along comes naturally. He’s never dated before and wasn’t too confident when we first started dating but in contrast to the past guys his confidence has built and we both have worked to assure eachother, while the other guys constantly worried about doing wrong so it put stress on the relationship. All in all, don’t give up on dating. It’s trial and error and you must go through pain before you can find that one person that just gets you. *helping tip: It’s a green flag if he has an older sister (from what I’ve noticed).

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anonymous Dating November 23, 2025 at 8:40 am 0 1