Alone taking my Driving Test

I know I'm a legal adult, but is it really so ridiculous that I just wanted my dad to be there to support me? He made it sound as if I was being an embarrassment for wanting him to just wait in the lobby instead of going home or driving around for half an hour.

This is my first time getting my license, I'm in my early 20s so it has always been something I've been self-conscious about. I had a lot of personal family stuff going on with someone close to me becoming terminally ill and dying when I was 16. I really regret not taking learning how to drive seriously back then as it would've been much easier if I had gone through the high school to take driver's ed back then. I still live at home, so my dad has been there to drop me off and pick me up for my driving school lessons which I'm grateful for.

When I asked if he'd like to wait in the lobby for my driving test, he got angry and said I'm an adult and he didn't have to drive me there. I could take an uber instead.

I just wanted someone to be there for me in case I failed. I know part of it isn't because he is embarrassed of me, but because he doesn't like waiting or being around people.

When I went with him to get his car registration or renew his license, I didn't have to go. I went because he wanted me to be there. I don't understand why I never get the same respect.

I have no one but him and my uncle. My uncle admitted he's only pushing me to be an independent driver to use me so I can take care of him when he gets older, and my dad just doesn't care at all. He's said plenty of times before that whatever happens to me in the future won't matter because he'll be dead by then.

It just hurts and makes me so angry because it feels like no one has ever really been there for me for anything. I've always been alone, I feel like I've always been an afterthought or a thing to be projected on. And now that I'm an adult, I should be alone in dealing with all my problems yet I'm still expected to become a caretaker for the rest of my life.

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anonymous Other September 23, 2025 at 2:28 pm 0 0