You said you wanted to be a housewife

You said this was what you wanted. Kind of a surprise to me given your education and what your plans had been when we got married, but hey, we're young, life happens, things change.

Being a housewife usually means cooking, cleaning, going grocery shopping. In a lot of couples and families it also means managing the household calendar, getting family gifts and things, but frankly I find it pretty childish to have to ask someone when my dental cleaning appointment is or what you got Mom for her birthday, so I wouldn't ask that of you. The cooking and cleaning and shopping, however, seem pretty basic. I took on a second part time gig to make enough money for you to stay home, but I'm still being expected to do the shopping, and the cleaning isn't really happening. Usually you cook at least but the last two days, nothing.

If being a housewife doesn't work for you like you thought it would, that's okay. Again, we're young, things change, you would have to be an idiot to marry someone at 23 and actually think neither one of you would ever change at all until death do you part. You do have an education and you can work outside the home. You just have to admit that's where things are. If you want to work less than full time that's fine. Work part time to afford a cleaner and delivery fees for groceries, I don't care. But this thing where I'm working up to 60 hours a week and coming home to a dirty house, a shopping list, and no dinner is not working.

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anonymous Home August 20, 2025 at 4:57 pm 0 2