When helping me is about them

My long-time girlfriend of has been going out of her way and doing things for me as I’m going through a rough time at work. However, they are things that do not help me and that actually take my time away from work things I should be focusing on. Her energy is a little frantic, to be honest, and it’s adding to my already-frantic energy. When the topic came up in conversation, it became clear her focus was more on being a more supportive girlfriend (being about her) than it was about actually helping me (being about me). It fills me with immense sadness that this thing that is clearly, 100-percent about me has turned into something entirely. I’m not one for hogging the spotlight, but if she can’t get out of her own way and see me and love me in the way I need her at this moment, or if I have to be the one to point this out to her and right her sails… just… immense sadness, really. I’m at a loss for words.

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anonymous Relationships July 12, 2026 at 10:41 pm 0 0