Toxic family

For the past couple of months, I have been really day dreaming about divorcing my husband and living a happy single life! My in-laws are really toxic people. They openly favour their elder son and daughter-in law and look like my husband got pretty used to the family toxicity. I come from a family where respect is not handed out just based on age. You have to earn it by showing it too! So we were raised to help each other out and not to be deaf and blind when an elder is not doing the right thing. But turns out, they do it in my in-laws home. I want to adapt to the new family, but not bound to accept the toxicity that is being passed around! My husband becomes super defensive when pointed these things. So I really have started to feel like it is not worth it! I have been married for 2 years and feel like it is not worth it to live in this anxiety. I feel so drained and exhausted when around my in-laws. I feel my husband is not worth this suffering. I no longer feel marriage to be worth it! I earn good and can build a good life for myself and my family with no extra emotional baggage! I can always adopt a kid. And about physical intimacy, well marriage is a huge price for something so minimal. And when I grow old, I myself do not want to he a burden on my kids, so old age home sounds good to me! I do not understand why marriage. We ladies always get the shitty end of it anyways! And honestly I do not want to raise any kids with my husband. It would feel like an added chore as he contributes nothing much in household help. So my having to manage my work, house and kids seems a lot to ask for.

Any idea how to bring up the divorce talk?

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Hmm Relationships May 23, 2025 at 12:25 am 0 0