online relationships aren't real

I was homeschooled in the middle of nowhere. I wanted to do things, couldn't do hardly much, and spent a lot of time online. And even then I knew most online friendships weren't real. Why and how is it that so many others who got to be around peers and have a life don't understand this? How is it they are more socially inept than I ever was?

I see grown adults, some like a decade older than me pretending this online shit is real. Participating in snotty online "friend" groups where everyone talks behind each other's backs and act like they are still in middle school. People act like they are friends because they know some small, general details about the other person. All conversation is elevator level small talk that goes nowhere. Then if someone goes against the group's agenda, they are casted out. Very small indiscretions will lead to someone being thrown out, despite years of "friendship."

As a teenager I'd use forums and saw this kind of shit go down over and over. There were moments where I would participate in conversations, but never to the level of people who were then in their 20s and 30s would. Where they acted like this little bubble on the internet was more important than everything else. Some of these people actually had families of their own and were living in this shit, like WTF?

I ended up becoming friends with one person over time. They were about my age. We liked a lot of the same shit. I felt like we had a lot in common when really, we liked a lot of the same mainstream bullshit, and at that time, someone else my age liking Family Guy seemed like this big oh my God thing. I began to see how this other person was not the most bright or functional in the world. Like a very petty, childish, weird person. Probably why they spent so much time on the internet. I distanced myself from them, and never really made another online friend since.

I've tried commenting on subreddits and places about my hobbies here and there. All too fake for my liking. So, I kind of don't do that anymore either.

So, it's like I've grown as a person. And I see some of the same losers willingly living online. These are able bodied adults, who could leave the house, work, or whatever. Sitting there for hours on end, literally doing nothing. Then when two of these losers pretend they've always been in love and date for two weeks, and then spend years talking shit about the other person when it goes sour. Like doing one 30 minute PG-13 Skype call really gave you so much ammunition.

I went on a date once with someone who kept talking about their internet friends. Big red flag in hindsight. I'll never know the answer to this. But I really think they were probably homeschooled like I was. I fall into the category of someone whose not proud of it and was not sheltered. They, came off as incredibly naive and green. So, they seemed like the academically smart, inept in every other area type, who fits the stereotype well.

That's all for now.

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anonymous Relationships May 19, 2025 at 2:57 pm 0 0