My coworkers are assholes

I started a new job a couple of months ago, and frankly I feel anything but welcome and accepted. I am quiet and reserved because I need some time to feel out situations, figure out the patterns, and know what I can and can't do in a situation (yeah, I get it I'm weird). Since being hired, I have been left to sit in an office by myself on more days than not. The person "training" me has done fuck-all. He's been gone since the start of my second week, and since then I have seen him fewer than 5 times. Even when he was showing up, he didn't know what to do with me. He'd take me out for job shadowing and ask me what he was supposed to do in certain situations. This guy has apparently been with the company for 15 years... Any "training" I've gotten has been panicked phone calls and a lot of "well it's common sense". You know what isn't common sense? Company-specific procedures and protocols. On more than one occasion I have gone out to do a job, only to be told I did something incorrectly or not at all upon my return. Do you think anyone actually helps me correct this mistake? NOPE! I get told "well now you know for next time!" I don't know for next time, I just know that I did it wrong this time and don't know how to fix it. It's not like there's anyone around the office to ask either.

The office itself, apart from being mostly empty, is not really a friendly environment. We're talking old school, prejudiced guys who treat it like we're in the 1970s. There's things they won't show me or teach me because I'm a woman. They don't say it outright, but I have experience in some of these areas and they are training a new guy who has absolutely no experience to do these tasks instead of me. I have expressed interest in doing all of this type of work, but I get told "well we can't just send you to shadow on these types of things!" It's hard to protest, but I don't want to come across as being difficult. I already get the sense that they don't really like me. There aren't even any bullshit pleasantries exchanged at the office. No one gives a shit about your weekend or anything like that. I bet you my boss can't tell you anything about me beyond my name and the fact that I walk to work. I don't even have keys to get into the office and I have

I've been put on an out-of-town project. The project itself has been great (keeps me out of the toxic office). All of the organization around the project has been a complete clusterfuck. Currently I am waiting to hear from a guy about where I can pick up this truck I need to take out of work. He refuses to take it to the office (because it's "so far"), so now I have to go get it from his home, which is 45 minutes away. He gave me 2 options, pick it up during rush hour on a Friday or pick it up on Sunday. I don't have a place to park a truck at my apartment. I certainly don't have a place to park a truck full of expensive gear and equipment for an entire weekend, nor do I have space to completely unload everything into my apartment, so really Sunday was my only option. It's Sunday. I've reached out and this guy won't get back to me. I don't know his address. I don't know when he's home. I have a life too. I have other things I need to do to prepare for this trip, which I can't do until I get the truck.

This same dickhead made me drive through a snowstorm because he didn't want to drop off supplies the next day. I have never driven in road conditions so bad in my entire life. I almost hit the ditch multiple times (driving well under the speed limit) and I was told that I would get used to it. Parts of the highway were closed and I had to detour several times just to get home. Yeah, I know I should have stood firm and used my right to refuse unsafe work, but it's hard when everyone is telling you that it's not that bad. I had to pull over because my hands were shaking so bad, and then I proceeded to throw up in a parking lot.

I have never worked in a place where everyone is so unconcerned about other people. Everything is about what's convenient for them. I am regularly inconvenienced, but I don't bitch about it out loud because I know that sometimes you have to give a little. This is getting ridiculous though. Have we given up on trying to be decent to other people?

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anonymous Work April 27, 2025 at 12:56 pm 0 0