I'm fucking done

My mother has recently become physically disabled, she's fine mentally aside from the fact that she will accept help from no outside source and only reluctantly accepts it from me when there's no denying the fact any longer.

I have tried time and again to explain that she's not a lesser person because of it and that life as she once knew it cannot continue, things need to change.

She, in her infinite stubbornness will not be the one to initiate that change because she's had 2 and a half years to do so. Until now, I've done my very best to accommodate and adapt to her current condtion, any time her input is required she buries her head in the sand and pretends as if all is normal.

Well I won't put up with it any longer. As long as I'm alive and kicking she will NOT end up in a care home but I am now going to take control of any important decisions going forwards.

Nothing to do with money or day to day life, just the ones that will ensure she retains her independence. I want her to thrive as best she can and minimize her need for my or outside help but she won't make the difficult decisions that lie ahead. We've sort've of been in limbo ever since she became disabled and it has already cost us so much.

She's going to hate my fucking guts for this but I have to do something.

So yeah, stuck between a rock and a hard place. Either we carry on as we are, things get increasingly worse but my mother can maintain her delusion a little longer and we stay on good terms or I take control and she hates my guts.

I already know what I'm gonna do but goddamn I love my mother and the thought of her hating me kills me.

Got nobody to talk to or ask for help about this so I find myself here, this little corner of the internet where crazies and down-on-their-lucks alike unite to scream into the void.

Wish us luck folks, we're going to need it.

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anonymous Other June 21, 2025 at 4:37 pm 0 0