Almost engaged

Six months ago I was engaged. We even set the date of the official engagement, were all the family and friends would gather to celebrate our beginning. A couple of weeks before the engagement some problems started to happen, and then he suddenly stopped talking, and all I wanted to tell him that, there were people who were already invited, and I already know that we both want it to be something simple, but I felt that it was rude to uninvite people that his part of the fam invited. He didn't even let me tell him this — and now he will forever not know this. He took his space and said I wanted to get to know you more before taking the decision, but our families rushed us and I felt uncomfortable, I told him that I thought when your cousin told us that we do the engagement and so that you can go out together with comfort; and that after getting to know each other for 2 weeks we do the engagement, and that he was the one who said that. I thought he intiated things, but it was his cousin who just made things up. We didn't go with the two weeks plan, we spent almost a month getting to know each other, and everything was going so smoothly, and I started to have feelings for him. A week before the big day he said he couldn't go through it because of all the family interventions. I told him I wasn't the type of person to give up easily and if I see something worth fighting for I would, but he left me on read. A couple of days ago, I don't know why, I just felt like posting a whatsapp status which I never do, he saw it, after accepting that he was never coming back, I thought that this was a pray that he might be rethinking his decision, and this might be a new beginning, but I was naive — naive to think that he was mine to begin with, naive to think that he loved me since I never came to him, he came to the house and asked my parents for my hands in marriage. It's just sad that after all this time I still can't move on.

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anonymous Relationships December 20, 2025 at 11:41 am 0 0