Yelling at its best

Recently my siblings and i (three of us total) were at our mothers for dinner. We have all married and moved out 10+ years ago. Our mother is in her 80s and lives alone.

Mother wants to do renovations, and has asked my one sibling to make sure all of their belongings are removed from their old bedroom. Sibling started yelling full volume at mother saying nothing in there was theirs, doesn't need anything from there, throw it out. Is that all that is stopping you? What more do you want? This in front of 4 other adults and two younger children. Finally said they were leaving, and stormed out of house leaving spouse and child behind.

After about 40 mins, they returned and said not another word. Spouse tried to talk to my other sibling and I about issues they thought we had. We tried to calmly say that no, we are ok. However we wished that they would stop offering to buy mother new things (stove, dryer, renovations), because it made us feel badly that we couldn't do the same for her. We were repeatedly told its not a competition. I said we know, how can it be when we don't have the means to do that for her? Also mother can pay for her own things.

Yelling sibling spoke not one word to me the entire night. My child was scared hearing and seeing my sibling speak to our mother that way. I've NEVER seen them act like that before. Mother says its like that most times she sees them (which is maybe once every 2 months). I'm worried for her, if that is how it is.

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anonymous Relationships April 06, 2026 at 11:32 pm 0 0