When a man

When a man says you're happy when you tell him you feel sad.

Just because I was more unhappy in the past year than now, doesn't invalidate my feelings in the present moment, I'm still sad, right here right now.

I just spoke with my boyfriend about feeling unattractive. He basically said " you don't have to worry about that because you're with me, why worry about what others think?"

As if that is helpful.

Says he only cares about what I think of him and I have told him time and time again I am unhappy with his weight and he doesn't put in enough effort to change that, it's been years. No wonder I want attention from other guys to know " I still got it , that I am still sexy and attractive as my boyfriend says I am".

My boyfriend talks about how our friend is attracted to her boyfriend therefore isn't attracted to my boyfriend but goes on to describe the type of man I am attracted to. Skinny with long blonde hair vs fat overweight man with short brown hair.

If I can't get what I want doesn't that mean I am not attractive or good enough to have what I want? Why I am never the type for the type of guy I want? I am not asking for much just a healthy weight . Someone who showers more than once a week. Maybe long hair but that's just a bonus.

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anonymous Relationships August 16, 2026 at 10:11 am 0 0