Unavoidable double date.

I'm a 30 years old lawyer, latino, 5'5",176 lbs. I’m fully aware of how unattractive I am to women, and most of the time, I don’t care. I’ve built my self-esteem by excelling in areas where I outcompete most men. Intellect, career, and discipline. It helps knowing my strengths, even if dating isn’t one of them. As long as I avoid talking about my romantic life, I can maintain a flawless image in front of other men who openly respect and look up to me.

The problem is, my best friend just got serious with a woman. Normally, I avoid meeting his flings because they don’t last. He’s handsome, pulls women effortlessly, and I’ve never had to deal with the reality of being compared to him. But this time, it’s different. He wants to introduce her to me because I’m an important part of his life, and she suggested a double date, bringing along one of her friends for me.

I can’t shake the feelings of pain. I’ve only dated three times in my life, and every experience has been humiliating. First was a blind date set up by my cousin, as soon th date was over she berated my couson for even thinking I was on her level.
The second was a girl from Tinder, where her face disappointment hit me like a truck the moment she saw me. It was like seeing the smile slowly disappearing from her face.

And the last one was a Facebook girl, she didn’t even try to hide her disgust when we met. She treated me like I was subhuman, walked out shortly after, and blocked me everywhere.

Since then, I’ve only been with prostitutes. It’s easier that way. No rejection, no humiliation. But I’m not bitter toward women, I get it. Im ugly, everyone is entitled to have standards, ive mine too. Some women have shown interesting and i said no; some single mothers in my circle looking for a provider to their children, or a colleague whose "past" with men was too much for even me to overlook.

How do I avoid this double date? I know it’s going to destroy me. I can’t handle another reminder of how I’m seen by women. I thought i would never feel like this again ever since i gave up on my romantic life years ago. I dont want to be humiliated in front of my friend or feeling inferior to him.

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anonymous Friends January 28, 2025 at 1:18 am 0 0