I can't make fucking friends anymore.

I'm trying to make local friends. I'm 28 and just moved to a new city 2 months ago. Already the friends I left behind have stopped reaching out. I kept in touch for the first month, then stopped reaching out and haven't gotten anything from anyone except my old boss and my mom. Life gets busy, I get it. But I am a social creature and would like to find someone to talk to. So I go for walks, but can't seem to figure out how to start talking to people. Approaching anyone in any way feels terribly awkward and shady here. No matter how sunny I am. In fact, the bigger I smile, the scarier I think I look. So I go to places where being social seems to be encouraged. Bars, the local library, local parks, coffee shops. But then I realize, no one is talking to anyone there either. So I turn to the internet. Bad idea. All the "chatting" apps are full of horny people trying to fuck, and bots. I don't know how the fuck anyone meets anyone anymore. On top of that, I don't think I even like people. I feel like people my age are so dumb and out of touch with reality. Their reality is memes and TikTok and Instagram and I just couldn't be bothered. I read, I write, I draw, I climb trees and hike. I get dirt under my nails, scrape my knees, solve my own problems most of the time. I feel like I speak a different language. Someone my age used an acronym I had never heard before today and apparently that acronym was a full conversation and because I didn't know what they meant they decided not to talk to me anymore. I want to meet real human people with interesting hobbies who are interested in being bad at things with me and not involving a camera. Lets go make peoples ears bleed with shitty karaoke singing together the way it was meant to be and NOT post it online! I'm dying for genuine human connection and goofiness. I've got my boyfriend, and we go to shows and have a wonderful time but he would much rather stay home. Plus it isn't healthy to rely on him as my only social outlet. It isn't healthy for me, or him. So how the fuck to I meet people who are worth meeting, and maintain friendships, and not be hit on in the process? I will take any and all suggestions.

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Stevie Friends October 07, 2025 at 12:58 am 0 0