Having doubts

Met a girl in July, but only started dating in September. That was on me because I wasn’t even sure if I was ready to get into anything yet.

She seemed cool, but then her dad died and volunteered to help her and her mom with stuff like moving some of the dad’s stuff into boxes and then moving the boxes somewhere. Easy shit.

I knew she had an older sister and the first time I met her, she asked if I could just keep it down if I was sleeping over since she’s in the next room. I said “for sure”. It was neutral.

Last night, I was helping my girlfriend move some of her stuff downstairs into one of the empty rooms down there. Her older sister lives in the next room. We weren’t done until midnight which was when the older sister came out and told the younger one (the one I’m dating) that we needed to wrap it up earlier because it’s a lot of noise and she has to wake up early for work in the mornings.

And that’s when shit hit the fan. My girlfriend flipped out and started yelling at her older sister and the entire time the older one just stood there completely calm. Never raised her voice. But my girlfriend was all over the place, couldn’t stay on topic, and even I recognized that she kept missing her sister’s point.
And that’s when I realized I fucked up and I was dating the crazy one. We’ve already fought before but idk, I thought maybe I was being a dick to her because I was already half in, half out in the beginning so I thought her anger was lowkey justified, but….

god damn….

I think I fucked up. I don’t think I can handle someone who acts like THAT when they’re angry. Watching her talk to her sister was like watching a girl (the older sister) talk to a fucking wall. At least the older one was able to still talk normally even though she told us she was frustrated.

I don’t wanna deal with that shit. Fights happen, yeah. But I don’t want to deal with a girl who’s just immature as hell. I didn’t see that in the beginning.
I gotta break up with her soon.

I’m about to sound like a dick, but fuck it. I wish I met the older one first. From what I’ve seen from her, she’s always MIA with the family but she does mind her business, calm as hell, and is level headed and tries to talk shit out even if she’s frustrated. That’s the sort of maturity I wish even I had.

I heard through someone my gf and I mutually know that the older sister has a boyfriend. But her boyfriend actually met the younger sister first and didn’t realize they were related because they look so different. Idk how everything else happened, but he ended up asking the older sister out and they’re still together.

Idk wtf is up with me, but ever since I saw the two of them argue, I lowkey I had just the older one first. Idk. Maybe I’m just in shock at how bad my gf reacted to everything so now the older sister looks like a better person by default. Idk.

I think I’m gonna break up with my gf soon.
The lesson learned is to take more time getting to know a person. I think I jumped into this relationship too fast. If I had known that she was gonna be this fucking immature and bratty, I don’t think I would’ve tried to date her. I don’t even wanna think about having to deal with her if we ever disagree on some shit. She’s impossible to talk to. I can’t bruh….

Don’t fuck up like me. Take your time getting know to know someone before you lock in and start dating.

I try not to be a dog, but fuck it. I can be honest here. I’d rather date the older sister. I went home that night and kept thinking about how any time I’ve interacted with her, she’s always been calm as hell. Even when she was arguing with her sister, she didn’t raise her voice and whenever addressed me, she was hella chill and was being reasonable even when she was frustrated. I’m genuinely impressed. I think I’ve said less than 10 words to her in total each time we met, but I can’t stop thinking about how well she handles shit. She is what lots of people claim to be.

I’ve heard from their mom that the older one doesn’t fuck with the family like that. She keeps to herself, but when she does run into them, from what I’ve seen, she’s still polite. I’m fucking mad at life. She seems hella perfect. She’s cute, got nice skin and hair, definitely more mature, I literally witnessed how she handles someone who was belligerent and unreasonable to her face so i know she has a lot of emotional maturity and can actually talk shit out regardless of how angry she is, and she’s straight forward but not in like an asshole.
She’s already taken, but if shit was different I would’ve asked her out too if I had just met her earlier and when she was actually single.

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anonymous Dating November 05, 2026 at 9:53 pm 2 1