dating and speed dating

Online dating sucks because most apps are a scam. To people over 40 or so who only know what they've seen on TV of the shit, let me fill you in. It's not like it is on a Dateline NBC episode, of being full of murderers. It's also not like it is on a sitcom where you just instantly match with some nice, down to Earth, good looking person whose just like you.

Dating apps are mostly full of indecisive, spineless people who have no idea what they want. You might like a profile and almost instantly hear back from them. You might think that is a huge sign of interest. Then, you try to carryout a conversation and get no effort on their end. In other words, they'll reply to you within a few minutes, but their response is vague and does nothing to further conversation. "What kind of music do you like?" "All types" Eventually you or them get tired of this and someone unmatches.

Most people on the apps will ALWAYS make it only about them and only them. AKA if you try to talk, it's only going to be them making it about themselves. Even if you are the biggest people pleaser in the world, you will eventually get tired of talking to adults who are behaving like a self-centered child.

You might, out of sheer desperation, try to set up a coffee date if through some miracle the conversation has lasted 5 or 6 messages. Or do a Facetime call if they live far away. 9 times out of 10, this "date" won't happen. They don't even want it either and aren't happy with interacting with a profile, that like you, they probably only liked out of desperation to find someone.

And speed dating. It's kind of a resurging scam at the moment. Lots of places are promising "better than online. speed date and meet real connections." The person hosting is either one of those brainless, bitter women who pretend to be all about zen and mental health and positivity. Or, some con man pervert who is staring down all the women who come into the event.

Speed dating events get such low turnouts that you will be paired with anyone. AKA if the event is supposed to be for 21-40 year olds and you say you only want to talk to people maybe five or so years within your age range, they'll disregard it, just to put you on a "date" with someone.

So, a 40 year old gets to make awkward small talk with a 26 year old, and the 26 year old gets to set there, also unhappy and uncomfortable to be on a "date" with someone that far off from their age.

It was always like that when I went. I'd get paired with women who were wayyyy too old for me, who'd look at me like I was a kid. Usually, we both kinda knew it wasn't going to go anywhere, but could at least be polite enough to make small talk for five minutes. But some were incredibly cold and bitchy and made it clear from the first second, that they hated my ass. And then I'd laugh to myself about what a bitch they were and how that was probably why they were still single.

Then on the other end, getting paired up with women who were barely in their 20s. It was awkward too. Like, even though these women were closer to my age, the maturity level was so far off. These girls speaking in modern slang. Acting like DVDs are some old world relic. Doing that thing insecure people with no friends do of saying "I have a friend who-" and "My friend-" every other word, when in reality these so-called "friends" are acquaintances they don't even really know.

The rare speed dates I had with people close my age were not much better. Every woman appeared to had been a functioning alcoholic. Downing drink after drink after drink. I can look the other way at actual drinking in moderation. I can't when I can fucking smell it on your breath, and just from what I saw, they were already on their 3rd drink. Then, in how self-centered they always were. Them them them them. Maybe a fake question about me that they don't listen to. All to go back to them. Double points if you remember seeing these people on dating apps prior to the event, or see them later after the event.

Dating sucks.

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anonymous Relationships February 06, 2026 at 2:49 pm 0 0