I just got out of a relationship with someone who I am pretty certain has Asperger's. It sounds almost identical to your post, and now that we've split up after years of treating me like garbage, and then gaslighting me to make me feel like it was my fault and I asked to be treated that way, they are now texting me obsessively with how lonely, and sad, and unloved they feel. How empty and useless they feel, just on and on about how their life has no meaning. I am tired of being made to feel like I have to be a rehab center for someone who refuses to deal with their own mental illness. It isn't my problem anymore. I just feel bad for their dog, because now they're trying to use that to get me to talk to them. Telling me how they are going to "give the dog away" and "get rid of it" and "leave it out in the middle of nowhere" because they know what they're dog meat to me and the bond, so they think that will make me rush back to them. I told them if they don't want the dog, we can meet somewhere and I'll take her.

Now, since that form of manipulation didn't work, they started texting me "I have chronic migraines, and a constant pain in my chest. I don't know what to do anymore! It's getting scary and I can't hardly even get out of bed lately!"

All I said was, "Call 911 I guess"

That was two days ago, and then today they text me with some crap about, "What if I have this virus? How do I know? What am I supposed to do?"

I never replied, and I won't. I am totally done. Nothing is wrong with them, it's all a lie, and all manipulation to pull on my heart strings because they learned, after seven years, that worked with me if they tried to make me feel like they had no one else to take care of them. And even if something is wrong, they can go to the doctor like any of us would do if we felt like shit.

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Amanda 5 years ago

Gaslighting? That is exactly what I went through.

The guy I dated was only two months in my city. So he masked himself at the beginning to make me feel very loved. I fell for it. I was very stupid. I just was out of a 10 years relationship and was vulnerable, I guess.

Then the crazy started. And he made me believe that it was me it was wrong with. That everything was fine with him. That I was the problem.

After he was done playing with me and took back to the shithole he came from - 10 car hours from my city - he just broke the contact. One day he texted me that I was his favourite person, the next day he just ended the contact.

I was never treated that terribly. Normally people treat me well and I treat other people well. The only thing I am thankful for is that he told me he has Aspergers when everything started to turn to madness. This way I found some online help groups for Asperger relationship survivers. And they went through exactly what I went through. You can visit The Neurotypical Site > Testimonials.

I am so done with him. No one should be treated the way he treated me.

PS! Typically, Aspies either just drop the contact from one day or another - because they only care about themselves - or they stalk/run after people - because they only care about themselves. The guy I dated was of the first type. Sadly, they are very manipulative and he knew exactly what to say to make me do what he wanted me to do. He masked himself perfectly. And he was a pathological liar. He never lied to protect me, of course. He lied to get what he wanted.

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HurtByAnAspie 5 years ago

I got out of a relationship with a meth user who thought everybody was talking about her. Including random truck drivers and strangers walking down the street.

She's been missing for weeks now and I am thinking she either got arrested or OD'd on that shit she was on.

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anonymous 5 years ago

^and yes, there was the "love bombing" and that kind of crap.

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anonymous 5 years ago

Yeah, and may I add: he treated me like shit. And the very first time I put up some boundaries - he got furious. They can't see anyone but themselves. They cannot cope with criticism. They can not cope with rules.

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HurtByAnAspie 5 years ago

Ok, I see that this text might be unfair. The guy I dated was this way. And a lot of us have experienced the same things. That doesn't mean that all Aspergers are jerks.

It just really hurts. How he treated me really hurts.

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HurtByAnAspie 5 years ago

Here we go again with the whole "aspergers' men are bad boyfriends who will abuse and manipulate you" blah blah blah. I've seen quite a few of these threads on this site now.

Seriously, you people are shitheads. Aspies don't do any of those things. That is not what asperger's syndrome does. If you don't believe me then google asperger's symptoms and find reputable sources. Not a single one mentions any of what you idiots are describing. You are all bigots who are just looking for a scapegoat to blame your problems on. You are basically incels if incels were women and their primary target was disabled men. Seethe harder.

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anonymous 4 hours ago