Chronically online in person date

To make it short this person had no idea what they wanted. They were actually good at responding and using proper grammar in their messages, something dating app people don't normally do. Doesn't however excuse their flightyness when setting up the date.

Doesn't matter if they had anxiety or not (I don't know if they did) the avoidant ass way they kept dodging around was a red flag from the start. And for background I have been through and have witnessed A LOT of shit to where I used to have panic attacks at the thought of even asking someone out, out of fear of being in the shit I knew again. I've worked through that. If I fought through that, no excuse for anyone else to be avoidant in such a way that I would have never been.

We met at a Starbucks. Right away it felt like they were interrogating me, like I lied or something on my profile. I didn't lie about anything and never claimed to be James Bond.

They reeked of perfume, like they bathed in it. Hindsight red flag number 3.

This person was booksmart but seemed to be very green with everything else. Like their understanding of life and people seemed so childish and naive. Just from the way they talked, their messages also had fake little isms that revealed their self as we got closer to our meeting. They bragged of going to Universal and Comic Con like being at a fucking hotel room and convention center gave them the communication skills that come from actually trying with people.

They pretty much lacked the self awareness needed to not be socially inept. It felt like a rapid fire set of questions until it was over, then we never talked again.

I'm used to being online a lot. I'm getting away from that. I've also been going on the handful of trips I've always wanted to. These short roadtrips don't make me more socially adaptable, it was just fun and showed me there is more to the world than the shit bubble I'm used to.

I just don't get it. My circumstances were horrific for so long, I worked through it. Yet I see these people who seem to have been through very little, who are 1000X more inept than most, and they don't want to do anything about it. Everyone else is the problem.

In hindsight I see the person was weird. It would have been me acting as adult with a childish acting person, but oh well both know Lord of the Rings. Fuck that.

I'm not rich. I'm not touring the world. I'm just using the internet less and am finally starting to see and enjoy the fruit of my labor of working through everything I was dealt. No excuse for others who haven't been through as much to suck.

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anonymous Dating April 06, 2025 at 6:46 pm 2 0