Can’t stand my partner

I can’t ask my partner a single question without him getting offended. Probably because he feels guilty but whatever. Asked him why he was running behind schedule at work today. He snapped at me immediately and said “it’s not like I’m doing anything wrong”…k. hung up on me twice after I called back and then he started playing baby because I’m no longer in a good mood obviously. If I’m speaking in any other tone besides babying him or emotionless, he accuses me of yelling at him and being abusive, but he has previously cheated on me many times and gotten physical with me. We are currently still dealing with court proceeding, but everytime he gets triggered the switch flips again I’m the bad guy and I just need to be more patient with him otherwise I’m an abuser and a manipulator. It’s like dating a child sometimes, but if I ever point out that his way of speaking to me and dealing with things is childish, he proves it even further by saying “that’s gross. you’re into kids. okay then” type deal. Criticism does not register in his brain. It is always conflict, and it always must be avoided or blamed on someone else, even if he starts it. He cheated on me for months on end but he will never let go of the fact that when we split up the first time because he did that, on top of all the abuse, I left finally. If I hold him accountable for things he did to me previously and is doing again, then I am “holding the past against him.” He’s said that about a lot of people though: he’ll say the most vile and nasty thing a human being can say to another human, and then the split will end (bpd) and he’ll feel normal, therefore everyone else should too, even if you just tore them to shreds emotionally bit by bit to fuel your need for serotonin or whatever it is they need. I don’t care if you think this is stigmatizing, if you have bpd and you treat people like this and blame it on triggers and then not being mindful enough of them, you are sick and need serious mental help.

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Anna Relationships November 25, 2025 at 7:03 pm 0 0