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When narcissists and psychopaths can't use you emotionally, they blame you for being selfish and arrogant. Don't let them get away with it.

They flip the script with breathtaking speed. One moment, you're their entire world—their most trusted confidant, the only one who "truly gets them." The moment you establish a boundary, say "no," or simply refuse to pour from an empty cup, you become the villain. Suddenly, you're the selfish one, the arrogant one, the one who changed. It's a masterclass in psychological projection. They are accusing you of the very thing they are guilty of: profound selfishness. Their entire existence revolves around what you can do for them, how you can make them feel, what supply you can provide. When the supply is cut off, they don't feel loss; they feel rage. It's the rage of a junkie who's been denied their fix.

Their accusations are not observations; they are weapons. "You're so arrogant" is code for "You're no longer looking to me for validation." "You've become so selfish" is code for "You're prioritizing your own needs over mine, and I can't stand it." They try to infect you with their own poison, to make you doubt your own sanity and perception. They want you to believe that protecting yourself is a moral failing.

Don't you dare accept their verdict. Your sanity is not up for debate. Your right to self-preservation is not negotiable. Recognize their blame for what it is: a desperate, flailing attempt to regain control over a source they've lost. When they call you arrogant for having self-respect, wear it as a badge of honor. When they call you selfish for protecting your energy, know that you are simply being a responsible steward of your own life. Their opinion is irrelevant noise, the death rattle of their influence over you. Let them choke on it. The only thing you're guilty of is finally choosing yourself.

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anonymous Relationships December 10, 2025 at 10:17 pm 0 0