cause they hate themselves and use other people as punching bags, its not you thats the issue, its themselves. its not you thats unwelcomed to go back there its them making it an unwelcoming place for you, theres a difference, that or they never grew up so if they were gossipy bullies in school they are still that way as an adult. next time tell it to their face or stare them down like you know they doing it to get to your head and mess with you. other people dont like letting other people be. you not doing anything wrong by being there. also its not gender related bc most people generally suck these days.

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no one 2 weeks ago

It's because middle aged women don't have time for trifling shit, just getting their jobs done. Jobs, as in the one you speak of. Taking care of their home and kids, with a grand kid thrown in the mix too sometimes. And many are taking care of their elderly parents either by helping them around their home, caring for them in their home to add on to the kids & husband they tend to, or going to check on the parents in a facility so they don't get abused & taking care of everything the usually short staffed facility did not do for the parent that need doing like feeding, proper bathing, changing out soiled sheets and clothing. Cut them some slack they might have only the energy to turn on the charm for people who are their bosses and write their checks.

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anonymous 2 weeks ago

When I first entered the workforce, I approached it like I did when I was in school. I wanted to be part of the "in" crowd. I wanted to be accepted, and liked. I didn't want people to ignore me or bully me or just not accept me.

I was challenged several times.

First, I learned that while I can be friendly at work, I did not need to socialize with my coworkers outside of work. If they wanted to put me outside of the team, fine. I focused on my own work and made sure I had all of my ducks in a row.

One thing I noticed that was not accepted at work is the idea that anyone was an open book. That leaves a person in a very vulnerable position. Don't overshare. Don't tell coworkers about your family, your friends, your relationships, or your pets. You can share activities you enjoy, like walking, vacations, a social group you enjoy (say things like "we all did karaoke together - it was a blast")
Don't talk about habits such as partying, drinking, or anything that people might judge you for.

If you already overshared and ruffled some feathers - you need to focus on your work for a few months. Middle aged women can get over it as long as you help them forget about it. Do this by keeping your life away from work private.

Eventually, you'll fit in. Just don't go to work an act like it's a social activity. It's not a popularity contest. There's no homecoming royalty or student council. If you want to be more involved, ask if there's a safety committee and whether you can join it.

Don't complain about things, either. Consider that everyone deals with these issues, and ask other people how they've addressed problems when they come up. If you treat people like mentors, they should be more receptive to you.

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anonymous 2 weeks ago

So I am guessing a young girl wrote this...it's likely they just don't take your craplike the men because you are a young beautiful girl and they don't give a f#$k... and are past it... seen it before... know the truth... it's not misogyny it's just they know better.... I find young girls to be the worse of any group.... older men can be cunts not always younger men tend to be nicer but not always but broadly yes. Older women actually tend to be pretty nice and have grown out of nadth younger women behaviourally problems. I like to believe are nice young girls but in my experience they often aren't or don't want to be until life humbles them.

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anonymous 2 weeks ago