Why am I so stupid?

I met this guy about a year ago. But it only felt semi seriously for the last 3-4 months. But I know he has feelings for someone else. I learnt that recently. Until then He was telling me all the things I wanted to hear. And I trusted him. But every time this woman messages him, He either leaves me when we're physically together or ignores me completely when he's at home. This other woman is engaged and if I tell him that she's using him, I come across as jealous. Which yes I kind of am But I'm poly and so is he. I just don't appreciate being the second choice for someone that is playing with him. I've met her and Honestly, I don't like her as an actual person. I've met nearly everyone he's been with since we started this situation and vis visa and she's the only one I have an issue with. Am I stupid or Should I end it? I love him and I know a lot of people will be like how can you love him when you both sleep with other people. To those people I say If you don't understand poly relationships, You advise is not needed. I have him and girlfriend. I love them both. But I don't drop everything when she messages like he does with me. He left me at a restaurant because she called and needed help at work... We all work for the same company. She knew exactly how to fix it. He told me when he called me the day after. I just don't know what to do

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Idiot Relationships October 08, 2025 at 5:28 pm 0 0