She's still got to pump the milk. Bottle feeding the baby after she's done that doesn't give her any more time to rest, it just takes away her bonding time with the kid...which she carried for nine months, and then had her body ripped to shreds giving birth. It's not physiologically possible for the father and mother to contribute equally in parenting.

Meanwhile if you don't want to be a father, meaning someone who takes care of both the child to the degree possible and the mother whose hormones won't return to normal for 2 years after birth... then either get a vasectomy or keep your legs together.

Damn, I don't ever intend to have kids and this shit still drives me crazy.

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anonymous 2 weeks ago

Im pretty sure when OP put bottle feed they meant formula and not a bottle of breast milk after pumping. So in this case bottle feeding would allow her to rest because dad would be bottle feeding the baby. You also proved OP point of playing the victim card because you brought up "bonding time." As the mom you have to choose either i can have dad bottle feed and I can rest or I can lose sleep and have "bonding time." You cant have both and then bitch that you cant have both.

And im pretty sure the mom whose "body got ripped to shreds" also knew that she was not going to sleep after having the baby. Maybe the mom should also be told to either get her tubes tied or keep her legs closed.

Damn, I do intend to have kids and it drives me crazy that somehow women get a pass on being able to complain about all the shit that comes after having a baby just simply because they had the baby.

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anonymous 2 weeks ago

Mom here, and totally agree with poster and second commenter. When I decided to get pregnant I knew about everything that came with having a baby. I knew about the sleepless nights the physical toll it would take on my body and what it wouldn't do to my husband and guess what I still made the choice to get pregnant. Its not like my husband decided to want to be a father and I magically got pregnant without it being my choice also. That being said after giving birth to our beautiful baby I told my husband that for the first 2 months I would breastfeed the baby at night and have "bonding time." Yes I was sleep deprived but knew that when I decided to be a mother. (Crazy I know that somehow I knew that was going to happen. Almost like Im some sort of psychic.) Then after the 2 months guess what happened somehow during all that time I managed to pump and freeze milk. So come month three guess what my husband did at night. He would defrost the milk and feed the baby while I slept. Shocker right. Almost like I had to choose between "bonding time" and being able to rest and not complain about it. Also before I get jumped on about being able to produce enough milk to freeze, my husband would also just make a bottle of formula when we didnt have frozen breast milk. In the end I really love my husband for helping me and there really is no excuse if your husband is willing to help. Also did this three times and all three times I managed to get a good rest after month two because of my husbands help and I didnt complain.

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Mom of 3 2 weeks ago

Mom of 3 here again. Also forgot to add that Im a counselor at a high school and teach at the local college in the evenings. Didnt want people to start saying that being a stay at home mom is easy when in reality I am not a stay at home mom.

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Mom of 3 2 weeks ago