Please stop talking, just stop talking...

I consider myself to be a decent person... I consider the way i communicate with others to be open and considering of all aspects. But this person... I literally cannot handle it much longer.

I should be fine, after all, I'm graduated and they still have a year of school, but it's their birthday soon. I want to go to the water park party, but im not sure i can handle their presence much longer.

The issue is 1, they victimize themselves. I understand why people do that generally, i understand that they don't know theyre doing it, but their over thinking and self victimization is to such an extreme that anything can set it off. Hey, at least you'll get to see a slightly vague jumble of words about how depressed they are and the 'not saying any names' card when the person they're venting about is literally IN THAT GROUP CHAT and EVERYONE knows its them except they didn't do anything wrong. I watched a whole relationship end in horrible flames because this shite of a person never communicated that their asexuality craved physical touch. And then when their partner apologized and begged to know why this person was so upset They got mad and let all hell loose, and then vented AGAIN on the 'woe is i'. In conclusion, i cant take a single word they're saying when they vent because its 79% out of their ass.

Aaaurgh!

2-the way they talk. NOTHING IS ORGANIZED. I may be picky on this one, i cant blame them BUT NOTHING THEY SAY IS REMOTELY ORGANIZED AT ALL. They have point a, then c, then a again, then d, then b, then gibberish, and then point e all in the same paragraph whether typed or spoken. It makes it genuinely difficult to understand and frustratingly fruitless. The original thing they were trying to convey? Cant see it through the blame game.

3 they use their anorexia as a threat. I doubt its intentional, and having any eating disorder sucks for a whole slew of reasons. But half of the vents end with a semi threat about how they've thrown up or cant eat. Its actually terrible for them and for the person they're upset at. That relationship i mentioned? When the major hellfire was let loose, one of the things they said was "youre the reason i haven't been eating" W. T. F dude.... Not fucking cool...

4 theyre gay and transgender, yet proceeded to accidentally be the most uncultured, transmisogonistic, and bigoted person about their own community. This is coming not only from me but several people in this friend group who also fall under the lgbtq+ umbrella. They're part of the community, they certainly feel like their identified gender, and i would forever respect and be able to veiw them as such, but they seem to know nothing about the history and actual soul of the people experiencing a similar life. For example, recently in a game the majority of my friends play, this beautiful woman was released. She has great character design, wonderful story. All that. This person decides to headcanon them as trans. Everyone nods with that idea, they don't mind, dont care. But its not what you think, they wanted to "trans her into a twink"... Might i mention, this person is obsessed with twinks for gay/trans men. I get it, theyre pretty. Hell, i plead guilty because i like pretty boys with long hair and feminine hips, but NEVER have i stooped... So low. And of course, they got a bit upset when everyone kinda called them out. And this game we all play doesn't have any shortage of twinks they are ALL. OVER. THE PLACE.

Additionally, and take this with a grain of salt, but being LGBTQ+ sometimes seems like aesthetic to them. Not all of it but some of it.... Again, it's a very thin observation.

5 they make excuses for everything and doing any group project with them is hell. I wrote a couple of scenes to perform in front of my theatre class as my final piece before graduation. The end project went wonderfly, but this person didn't start memorizing their lines until the DAY OF. And every day before that I would remind them over and over. I still had to whisper a few of their lines to them during the performance, which I'm sure could have been nerves, they did great otherwise.

And now I'm going to spend a lot of time with them on a Friday someday soon. A long car ride... Listening to them ramble about how much they wish they were a twink that would be swept away by a big strong man and a big strong man cuddling a twink at the same time.

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