Need Advice?

Just for a bit of background, this is my first relationship, I’m not very experienced in these sorts of things and I don’t have anyone I can talk to about this so any and all advice is greatly appreciated.

My boyfriend is in the military, we’ve had some slight issues in the past where I felt like he wasn’t interested and felt like he was purposely ignoring me, we had a small talk about it. The problem persisted, so in response I sort of blew up on him, which I later regretted because he was genuinely just busy. The problem went away, and we were great for a while. I was the one who ended up asking him out since he told me he’d be getting sent out. I told him I’d happily wait for him.. as long as I didn’t wait for him just for us to return to being in the talking stage. After he was back and able to talk to me again I asked for his number. He said he would but his phone didn’t work and there wouldn’t be a point in him giving it to me. Maybe a week or two later he told me that his phone was fixed, and yet.. he didn’t give me his number or ask for mine. I’ve looked past that little issue for now but I figured it might be necessary background for this rant. Two days ago, he told me was getting sent out again and would lose connection, and since he “lost connection” his snap score went up a lot more than usual between our texts and he hadn’t texted for almost a whole day. So I texted him asking if I did something wrong, only to be left on delivered while his snap score went up a few more. My overthinking spiraled and I decided I was going to try and take a step back to not overreact over potentially nothing, so I deleted my message. Until later in the day, I went back to type a longer message to try and ask about it in a way that seemed less accusatory? In the middle of my typing, he enters the chat then asks for my address to send me a surprise he had told me, a week prior, that he wanted to send me. So I decided not to blow him up with an essay.. and instead I asked if he would tell me when he’s upset with me because I was overthinking. He answered by saying he would, and he wasn’t upset with me. Then said he would lose connection again and he’d miss me and text me again as soon as he could. And I just looked at his snap score again, it’s almost 100 above what it was after our last conversation.

Everything is going great besides his snap score and me not having his number. I’m still his number one best friend on Snapchat, so I might not be too justified in worrying? I know talking to him about it is the obvious answer, and I will, but I don’t want him to think I’m always going to have something to complain about. Maybe I’m in the wrong, I’m not too sure. I’d like any and every opinion I could get on this. Thank you for taking the time to read this.

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anonymous Dating September 26, 2024 at 6:44 pm 0 0