my parents blame me for EVERYTHING my siblings do

I'm the oldest child. I'm turning 16 this year. I'm doing my GCSES in a month. I have 4 younger siblings, all which I'm close to. My parents are wonderful people but as I got older I realised that my household is toxic. I still don't have a phone. They count how much I sleep and limit me from sleeping. My parents ALWAYS fight, but STILL side with each other whenever their in an argument against me. They comment on my body too. I'm 171 cm tall, and I weigh 59 kgs. I'm a female and obviously my hips are wide- they keep telling me my hips are too wide! I know for sure I'm not overweight. They force me to constantly study, and on top of that look after all my siblings. I left school, and I'm now studying at home on my own and this makes everything so much harder. Thank goodness I achieve good grades, or else my parents will also be putting my down for that- and having my own room, which I'm super grateful for. Obviously when I lock the door they keep asking me to open it.

Now to the actual rant. Whenever my siblings do something they blame me. Like literally.
"You're the oldest, it's your fault!" "Why can't you watch them properly?!" "It's all your fault that he failed his test!" "It's your fault her boyfriend broke up with her!"

That's only some of it. I didn't mention this but growing up constantly, my younger sister (the third child) was always compared to me. Relatives, teachers, friends and strangers compliment on my beauty. My sister is really skinny and flat (compared to me), she isn't ugly at all. Everyone is beautiful in their own way. Guess what? My parents blame me for this too! Don't get me wrong, I love my sister, but my parents are too much.
"Your sister is insecure because of you! Stop overshadowing her!"


My parents also blame me when my siblings break stuff. Not just me, my brother too. My brother, let's call him X, is the second child, and only a year younger than me. I'm only going to mention one incident, which is the most recent. My dad doesn't buy me makeup often because he believes it harms my skin and steals my natural beauty. So I have a few products that my mum and I bought in secret (he believes my friends gave them as gifts so he doesn't really say anything about that). My youngest brother (turning 6 this year) sneaked into my room, and broke my only eyeshadow palette. It had really pretty shades, and was kinda expensive. I was so mad, because it was new, I only used it a few times! I used all my pocket money for this too.
I went and told this to my parents, and they said this:
"Why did you keep it somewhere he could reach? It's your fault!"
I was SO mad, I was so close to snapping and bursting into tears but I held it together. I kept inside my wardrobe (on an empty spot with the rest of my makeup), inside MY room! It's his fault for breaking it! The same thing happened to several other stuff before this, for example: my headphones, my favorite book, my assignments, a few gifts my friends gave me, field trip money, some snacks, a lamp, my pet fishes and cat, etc!

Thank you for reading this...
it's super messy but I really had to let it all out.

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