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[59325] Advice ASAP

Okay, so this is not a rant BUT I need serious advice ASAP. My niece has a boyfriend starting today. She is in 5th grade , 11 years old, in middle school. I personally do not think she should have a boyfriend. Apparently, the boy she called her best friend yesterday gave her a box of chocolates and a rose from school that they sell. (Probably one of those admirers things they did when I was in middle school. Should I tell her mom or deal with this myself? Her mom would be seriously pissed. I am not too happy. I do not want to betray her trust though, because then I'll KNOW important things like this. I do not know if she will listen to me if I talk to her and tell her to break up with the boy and to not date right now. I do not know if she will listen to her mom, or go behind her back. I do not know what to do. This was sprung upon me now. Should I tell her mom/my sister or deal with this myself?? Either way, I do NOT want her to have a boyfriend. Hell no. I'm just torn on whether I should tell her mother...

Posted 6 days ago

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  • It's a box of candies between 11 year olds.

    Take a deep breath. It's gonna be OK
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  • You're fucked up. Fucking look at your own life.

    Jesus Christ you sound like an hysterical puritan. Just shut the fuck up. That's my advice.
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  • I thought for a second that maybe I was the only one with these thoughts, but no. This kind of pisses me off.

    They're kids, and what is going on is innocent. You said it yourself, this shit was going on when you were a kid too. So it's okay if you had a boyfriend as a kid, but not okay if the niece does? That hypocritical bullshit people do has always pissed me off, you don't let people do the exact things you did, even when they're nothing like this.

    This is nothing to worry about. It's a middle school romance. They'll maybe hold hands, eat lunch together, for a week, and then it'll end on its own. I really doubt anything bad will happen, and again it's ridiculous to be reacting this way.

    People want to bitch and moan about how bad kids are these days, and yet when you see how innocent they still are (and always will be iPhones did not ruin society) people still want to go up in arms, and complain.
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  • Lots of 11 year olds exchange gifts on Valentine's Day, and lots of 11 year old girls have a boyfriend. It's not a big deal.

    If this child knows her mom will blow up when finding out about her friend, is it any wonder she keeps secrets? Maybe you should talk to your sister about her poor parenting skills, and tell her to go to a parenting class to help build trust between her and her kids. Controlling kids through fear is downright abusive.
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  • Am I the only shocked by these comments?

    Jesus, you should worry dear. Tell the mother.

    Poor parenting like the ones above is what will get your kid pregnant at 14. Look around at society now. Kids are allowed to date young and now?

    Pregnant teens everywhere.
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  • Am I the only shocked by these comments?

    Jesus, you should worry dear. Tell the mother.

    Poor parenting like the ones above is what will get your kid pregnant at 14. Look around at society now. Kids are allowed to date young and now?

    Pregnant teens everywhere.
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  • Kids are smarter than they ever were. They know things younger than they ever have. Now is the time to be the strictest you can ever be.

    Times have changed. Kids are cursing in elementary school, they know what sex and weed is. Middle school kids ARE having sex, twerking, smoke cigs and weed.

    Parents aren't as strict as they used to be. Probably why lots of mishaps are happening in our young nowadays.

    I promise you the parents that are gullible enough to think everything is innocent, to compare their times with our times, are the ones that have no clue what their kid is truly getting into and never will know. Do the right thing.
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  • These people are some fucking wannabe religious, better than you, naieve, dumbasses. How sheltered can you be, if you think just now kids cuss and know about drugs and shit?

    They have known about this shit forever. As for children getting pregnant, that's actually on the decline. WOW, can you believe that? People acted like spoiled little whores in previous decades.

    You are the exact kind of retards who can't think for theirselves that are the reason why there's so much bullshit in the media. Sheltered fucks wanting to pretend we're in a modern civil rights era and a war is imminent. Meanwhile, our society is more pussified than ever.

    And I bet you half of these motherfuckers arguing the shit here, did this crap when they were young. So because they acted like whorey little shit heads, ruin relationships for who are probably actually good kids who don't act like Maury Povich trash.

    Fuck you people. Fuck you.

    Damn I feel like John Goodman on The Big Lebowski.

    OVER THE LINE!!!!
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  • OK, you hear 11 year old with a boyfriend. You think sex, drugs, alcohol, pregnancy, the decline of society... Kids aren't getting pregnant because of too much information, it's too little.

    Try talking to your 11 year old. See what she's thinking. Invite the boy for dinner, gauge his intentions and sincerity.

    Instead of laying down the law, which kids don't respect and will disobey, try getting involved. Lend an ear to her situation, you'll help her and gain valuable information about her that may just put you at ease.

    Kids get in trouble when their neglected, but also when they are dominated by an overbearing guardian. If your kid doesn't think they can talk to you, they'll hide their entire life from you.

    It's like, a good cop is friends with everyone in the neighborhood. It's easier to get information from a friend than an enemy. You can stay right on top of things with a smile and clear intentions.

    Whatever you end up doing, don't base your decision on "society" and "kids these days". Base it on the particulars of this specific circumstance. Talk to your niece, not to us.
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  • Kids used to get married at her age. What the fuck is with these "kids these days are doing stuff earlier and earlier" comments? Every study has proven that false.

    Today's kids are smarter, less likely to get pregnant, and able to handle peer pressure better than the previous generation. Get your hard core religious lies outta here.
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  • 5th grade?!?!?!?

    That is WAAAAY too young to be in a relationship.
    Posted 1 day agoReport
  • Teen pregnancy rates are at a historic low (at least in the USA).
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  • What world are you ^living in? Republicunts have been trying suppress sex ed for years and little kids fooling around like this persons niece could get infected with anything bc I bet they don't even know what a fucking condom is. Worse republicunts are trying to outlaw abortion so imagine this poor eleven year old girl having to suffer the trauma of having a kid when she is still a kid herself. But to give some advice: Let her have the boyfriend but tell her to be careful about the crotch area. Maybe sex-educate her a bit bc her school will do a piss poor job of it; mine in CA did. But if you really don't feel comfortable with this, tell her to wait a couple years- deal with it your self and tell her to her face that you will tell her mom if she wont cool it.
    Posted 18 hours agoReport

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